Arley Cox

Singer . Songwriter . Mentor .

 Story

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Week 3-Story


Wow!!!!! I am really looking forward to this week!!

This Week is all about Story!!!!

one of my favourite things in the whole wide world

Can you remember a time in your life that felt incredibly powerful.

can you remember the taste in your mouth? The smell of the room? The feeling in your body?

This week we explore why story can be intrigal to any writing process.

Stories help us understand others

Stories encourage Empathy

Stories come in all forms and mediums

Stories help us cope, remember and imagine

They are part of our history and part of our survival

Story video


Story Script

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Story exercises

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EXercises

Learning to be a witness to our story

Lets walk through this together

Here is your prompt

Some stories might be triggering for others so keep us posted at the beginning of your story if we need to be mindful of our own mental and physical health.

  1. BRAINSTOrm… try to LIST five THINGs

For Example……….

  • when I was stranded on the highway with a flat tire…….

  • when I was a kid and got lost in the forrest……

  • I can remember when I was Scared after my partner left……

  • I can remember the time I had to sing at my friends funeral……

  • when I was a kid we used to play hide and seek in the dark…..

Feel free to go wide and deep with this

Take yourself back to a time or a story in your life that is memorable enough to detail it out.

Let it dive into deep emotions if it feels good.

Go wide

Let your story heal a bit of your heart

2. Now we are going to narrow it down

Take your list and narrow it down to ONE OR TWO story ideas

Take those two and write about each one separately

  • Focus on detail

  • Focus on order of events

  • How it made you feel

  • What did you smell, taste, touch, feel, sense?

  • Could you remember colour or temperature?

  • Get as detailed as you want to

3. Pick one for the week and tell your story

For every story there is a beginning middle and end

find a form that works for you

  • You can write a letter to your younger self

  • Write it in a story form from your perspective

  • Write it from your inner child

  • Write it from the perspective of an on looker

  • Write a song or poem

4. Share if you like

If it feels good, share it on the Facebook page

You can record a short description at the beginning to let the listeners know what it is about….

or

  • You can simply share….with no description

  • You can make a video of yourself reading it

  • You can do it from memory

  • Or you can share your writing

Only share if it feels absolutely right in your heart.

If you want to honour it in another way…..you can burn it!!

Let the fire ingest your story

Take a video of you throwing your story into the flames if it feels good

This exercise is a deep one so we will all work extra hard for each other to hold space, empathy and compassion

Again…..

Some stories might be triggering for others so keep us posted at the beginning of your story if we need to be mindful of our own mental and physical health.

5. Keep it simple

It is such a good idea to remember to keep it simple. Sometimes stories have a way of getting too complicated.

Start slow

Let your story unfold as it wants to

Once you feel like you got it to a spot that feels good you can refine it

Here is an example of a story I wrote for one of my writing courses

On This Harvest Moon

Arley, would you help me surprise my mom with a little concert for her birthday.”

“You and I can sing and play together”

“She’s going to love it”

Jen asked me this question one month before her moms birthday.

Jen is my best good friend
and guitar student.
The answer was of course yes.
Jen and I practiced for the whole month diligently going over her mom’s most loved songs.
Practicing our harmonies
Singing our hearts out
Playing our guitars
Focusing on Neil Young’s “Harvest Moon”
Because that was her favourite.
Jen’s mom loved when we played and sang together.
Jen’s mom was our number one fan.

The day came
Her mom came in the house from a birthday coffee date with her friends.
Jen and I were situated on the couches in the living room.

We started playing
Her mom instantly fell into tears of joy.
We played and sang
Looking at each other for cues
Laughing
It was beautiful

(What I didn’t expect was the gift I was about to witness.)

Jen and I started into “Harvest Moon”
Her mom jumped up off of her chair and ran into the kitchen where her dad was making coffee by the sink

She leaned into his back
As any lover might do
With her head upon his shoulder
Wrapping her arms around his body
Her mouth close to his ear
And asked him to dance

Smiling big and wide
He grabbed her up in his arms
In the most emphatic of ways

I was facing the kitchen witnessing the incandescent love
That was slowly rocking back and forth in rhythm to our singing.

It took everything in my power not to start choking on my own emotions while trying to sing.
It’s really hard to sing when you are crying

Her face buried in his neck
Her arms around his shoulders
His arms
Strong, aged, clasped around her waist
A Kleenex gripped firmly In her right hand used sporadically to wipe the runaway tears that fell out of her eyes.
As they smiled and breathed

It was the most beautiful scene I had witnessed between two grown human beings.

They had lived
many years together.
Through hardships and Change
Through children
And
fighting
But most of all
A deep love survived by the double bed they had shared ever since they were married.

The song ended and they shared a sweet kiss

Five months later
We got the news
Jen’s father had terminal cancer.

Her father passed away a few moths later leaving in the wake of a most powerful energy.
Of life
Of family
Of deep love

I dropped off food to Jen’s mother and family after her father passed.
I gave Jen and her mother a hug
Feeling awkward and relieved
Awkward because I never know what to say or do in these moments
Relieved to see my friends face
There is something to be said about seeing someone face to face that lets you know they are.....at the very least.....ok.....

Knowing that this was the case we hugged again and I left

I hopped in my truck
Turned the key
Shifted into drive
When
“Harvest Moon”
came on the radio

“Jen I’m three houses down from your moms and look what’s on the radio”

I snapped a picture with my phone to show her the display of my truck radio.

“That’s my Dad!!.....”
She said


I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
— Maya Angelou

Story challenge


Story Organization

There are times when I am writing a story and I find myself having trouble organising my thoughts into something

Here are some ideas that might help you if you are feeling a little stuck with the storytelling process

I took a course in July of 2020 called the “Story Skills Workshop” it was run by a lady named Bernadette Jiwa

The course was more for marketers…..I have to say I didn’t much care for the outline of the course

However

There was a Story structure that they gave out that was really sweet to follow.

It was called “The 5 C’s Story Structure”

  1. Context (The Backstory) introduction to the writers world

  2. Catalyst (The Event) Something changes in the writers world

  3. Complication (The Obstacle) The writer is faced with a problem and a choice

  4. Change (The Transformation) The writer decides on a path and a plan to overcome the obstacle

  5. Consequence (The Resolution) The writer’s character’s fate, world, and worldview are altered

To simplify that even further

Character///Circumstances///Choices////Change

Or

A Character////In A Situation////Facing Choices

This section is not neccicary if your story feels good and already has your own special flow.

Take what feels good and leave the rest

Extras

Give Yourself Permission To Be Creative

TedTalk

Ehtan Hawke


Lets tell a story!

Roar

Moth GrandSLAM

Amanda Gorman

R2 Where Are You?

Tig Notaro

The Moth


Podcast

Podcast and a story

If you can’t open this link on your phone or computer no worries

You can go to anywhere you get your podcasts from

CastBox

Spotify

Apple Podcasts

Overcast

Anchor

The Podcast is called “The Creative Journey” with Arley Cox

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Invitations

This week we are going to be gentle on ourselves

Telling stories can bring things up that might feel a bit painful

Its ok to take lots of breaks this week

It is also ok to dive deeper into those feelings

Do what feels right for you

Details will help you find your way through

Tell your story like you would if you were telling a good friend


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