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I see you and I feel you out there

And I know that this is feeling really hard.

Your gorgeous sensitivities are floating in the surface

And I feel you

So today I want to remind you that You are

Not an endless well.

There is an expectation of sorts

That we have (or should have)

this endless well of happiness, empathy, and compassion.....

Right now....lots of the time....

And if you don’t experience these feelings on a level of the highest functioning

Something might be wrong with you

So let’s just top up those sensitive feelings with a high dose of guilt and shame....

Blammmo!!!

So👏Much👏Fun👏

So

I’m going to level with you

The well isn’t infinite and

It isn’t endless.

And that’s perfectly ok.

I think that might be what some of us are feeling currently and it’s ok to be honest about it.

If you are a parent

Or caregiver.....

Or with your partner....

24/7......

your battery

at some point

is going to get low......

Like in the red low......

Bottom of the barrel....

Your ability to show and give

Empathy

And

Compassion

Is going to be scarce at times

And that is also perfectly ok.....

We aren’t built to give endlessly from something that actually has a bottom.

Feeling this depletion might feel like

Sadness

Anger

Agitation

Restlessness

Fear

Frustration

Depression

The list goes on

But here’s the good news

Just like it depletes like a battery

It charges up like one too.

I want you to know that it’s ok to feel these things.

And it’s really honest and human.

So in order to fill our well up again

Maybe we could gently remind ourselves about plane travel

When we travel on a plane

And cabin crew take us through the safety sheets.....

They talk about cabin pressure

If the pressure drops too low

The air masks will pop out of the ceiling of the plane.

The rule is.......

You Put Your Mask On First....

Make sure it’s securely tightened

And then

You help the others.

So ya......

remember to put your mask on first.....

take care of yourself first

Fill your well....

This might look like...

Taking some deep breaths

Staying away from social media for a hot sec

Taking a quick walk

Afternoon nap

Staring at the wall....

This list is also endless

It actually looks like a million things

It’s ok to not be ok......

It’s normal to not be the poster child for the compassion brigade.

And it’s ok to be super honest about it.....

Honestly coming from me....

a person who prides herself on the depth of her well and decent boundaries......

I hit the bottom of it yesterday

And realized

Jeesus

This is actually a super normal thing to feel.

I wonder if anyone else is feeling this

And I’m gently nudging myself

To be really honest and ok with that.

Actually I think this depletion has been happening slowly for a really long time.....

I had one hell of a leaky well.

Working on patchin the ol girl up

I’m pumped that I got to witness it in myself and thought I’d share.

Just in case you needed to hear

That it’s a real thing

And it shows up with different feelings

And you are important

Take care of you first...if you can

Then take care of others.

Big Love